Words mean a lot to some people and less to others.
If words are important to your love why not write your sweetie a note to let them know how you feel .. or if you have writer’s block pop into a card shop and find the perfect message
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Relationships Advent Calendar . Day 8 . Be Happy
Have you ever tried walking round smiling all day? Smiling at strangers? As well as people thinking you’re slightly unhinged I’m sure others will have smiled back, because smiling is infectious!!
So when you see your baby tonight SMILE :-)))))))))) and see them catch it off you ..
Relationships Advent Calendar . Day 7 . Surprise Surprise
It’s good to be shifted out of our routines .. when you first met you’ll have talked and laughed and tried new things together, but once the relationship matures it’s easy to do the same things day to day. Research shows doing new things together stimulates us to feel affection and encourages us to communicate more.
So surprise your sweetie today .. with breakfast in bed, do a chore for them, a surprise gift, a special night out/in ..
Relationships Advent Calendar . Day 6 . Tell All
The number one thing couples ask for when I meet them for the first time is improved communication. What they often mean is how to disagree in a more graceful way, but also when a relationship goes wrong what is missing is a sense of appreciation for each other.
Research shows that 5 positive interactions to every 1 more difficult interaction serve to strengthen our bond and make disagreements easier to manage.
So get into good habits .. Tell your beloved what they did to make you happy today.
Relationships Advent Calendar . Day 5 . Get physical ..
Touch is sooo important in feeling connected, holding hands, being close, a hug .. and all too often I hear couples saying they don’t touch in affectionate ways any more because one of them is nervous it might be seen as a bid for sex.
Treat your sweetie to a shoulder rub today, and if this is an issue for your couple make it clear in advance that a shoulder rub MEANS just that, nothing more.
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Relationships Advent Calendar . Day 4 . Get texting
Maybe you text your sweetie all the time, but how many of those messages are about your relationship, especially if you’re managing a family together. Using all the opportunities to communicate our love and appreciation is vital in order to stay connected in the face of multiple responsibilities.
Text your sweetie you miss them today, even if it’s just from the shed!
Relationships Advent Calendar . Day 3 . Be Complimentary
It’s lovely to hear something nice about ourselves .. and how much nicer when it’s coming from someone we love. Find a reason to compliment your beloved today, whether it’s how they look, what they do or how they do it.
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Relationships Advent Calendar . Day 2 . Give thanks
Sharing gratitude is so important in our relationships and it’s such a shame that it so often gets lost in the busyness of our everyday lives. Stop and think how you might feel if someone thanked you for something you do every day at work for example .. now .. does it feel good?
Your challenge is to give your partner the gift of gratitude today .. Thank your sweetie for something they do for you today, or simply for being who they are.
Notice the difference that one small action makes, and consider making gratitude a bigger part of your relationships.
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Relationships Advent Calendar . Day 1 . Forgive for 5 minutes
Happy December .. and welcome to the first day of this challenge that we’ll be carrying out together in the days leading up to Christmas!!
Today is about preparing the ground for the month ahead.
Holding on to hurt from the past can prevent us from enjoying our present .. so today take some time to think about someone who hurt you in the past, breathe deeply and send them forgiveness for 5 straight minutes.
Forgiveness is a funny thing, ideally it takes remorse and taking responsibility from the person who hurt us as well as the willingness to let go on our side.
Sometimes though the other person either won’t, or maybe can’t ask for forgiveness if they’re no longer in our lives .. this exercise isn’t for them, it’s for us to be able to let go of that hurt just a little bit more ..
With Gratitude
I’m a little late posting about my annual November gratitude challenge.
This month is the perfect one for a gratitude practice here in Europe, as it’s the month we commemorate the 1918 Armistice and remember all men and women killed in war.
A daily gratitude practice is a healing and healthy way to remind ourselves of all we benefit from and all those who support us. It builds and strengthens resilience and our sense of wellbeing.
I try to practice gratitude all year, but being human a little boost each year can be helpful. In November I’ll be challenging myself to post on Twitter and Instagram each day one thing I am grateful for.
Today I want to share this gorgeous picture of St Mary’s Lighthouse and share my gratitude for living near the beautiful North Sea, which has given me so much peace and enjoyment since I moved here fourteen years ago.
Why don’t you join me this month?
Try to share what you’re grateful for each day, online or to family, colleagues and friends ..
Armele P. MBACP(Accred) . Psychotherapeutic Counselling & EMDR Therapy 